usapang wedding and some other rants about relationships

i was listening to the radio one night (which i seldom do because most of the radio stations here suck anyway) and out of the blue they played the song all i want is you by U2. now i've been a fan of that song ever since i saw the movie reality bites.

hay naku! noon pa lang U2 rocks na talaga. and i really, really love that song. in fact i want it played on my wedding. yes! on my wedding....and i want bono to be my groom. he he he...patawa! may asawa na kaya si bono and mind you he's loyal to his wife. how's that for a rockstar? so on the premise of not committing adultery, ninong na lang siya sa kasal and he can sing this song on my wedding.

ok enough about U2. since i'm talking about weddings, let me just rant about women who "lives in" with their boyfriend and can't understand why they (boyfriends) don't want to marry them. it's simple enough to explain. a lot of people have said this time and again. "why buy the cow when the milk is free?" think about it will you?

now on to women who find it hard to end a really crappy relationship. eto lang ang masasabi ko: "what is wrong with your brains girl?" if a relationship is crappy to begin with do not expect it to bloom into something beautiful in the long run. thinking that it's not going to get any worse is stupid. something mildly crappy doesn't just stay mildly crappy or so i've read on one of the advice columns in a local newspaper. the writer even went on to say: "alone is hard.... wishing you were alone is harder." now let's all think about this and try to stop creating an angel out of the devil we know. people who'd rather be in a bad relationship than have no relationship at all are stupid. excuse me for calling people names but that's just what i feel.

love makes you happy yet it makes you blind to all the things that would make all that happiness fade when the time comes. it makes you crazy to the point of not realizing the wrong decisions you've made. it makes you stubborn to the point of being close minded. i just hope that we could all find the love that people talk about in fairy tales. the happy ever after kind of love. the selfless kind. the kind of love that knows how to wait, how to sacrifice, how to give. the love that does not think about what it could get but of what it could offer. real love doesn't give ultimatums, it doesn't make you choose, it always thinks about what could make you happy and it doesn't have to alienate you to the other people in your life.

let us all think about this real hard as i'm not the kind of person who regularly gives unsolicited advise. i've always thought that there is no nicest feeling in the world than to be in love but always bearing in mind that it has to be with the right person.


Ice said...

Tumpak ka gel!!! Minsan kasi when we are inlove; we became blind. Blind nga ba or nagbubulag bulagan?
We think always about the good points ng love natin. The question is may good points kaya or imagination lang yun?
When you love, expect the best!! Don't ever settle for anything less.
And i leave with my fave bible verse about love.

I Corinthian Chapter 13:

Love suffers long and is kind;
love does not envy;
love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
Does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
Does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoice in the truth;
Bear all things, believes all things, endures all things.

sealdi said...

agree kaayo ko sa imoang post!!! azn!!!

Anonymous said...

When you got into a relationship, how can you say if your partner could be the right one for you? That’s why they called it relationship, a bonding of two persons working together for the sake of something they feel. If lately it turns out to be so stress, being so persistent into a deficient connection doesn’t signify that you’re impractical. You’re just fighting for what you believe. And why so many man, for you it is so easy to dump a woman just a snap from your fingers but when it comes to us, you’re happy to see us howling all the time?

Anonymous said...

sealdz azn jud!!!

to anonymous:

just to let u know, #1 i'm a girl. #2 i posted this blog entry out of fear for a friend whom in my opinion is going to make the biggest mistake of her life. yes i agree with u, nobody knows who the right person is for them. if someone could tell me point blank without any cloud of a doubt that a certain person is the right one for him/her i would most certainly envy that someone.

u said that a relationship is a bonding of two persons working together for the sake of something they feel. i don't think so in this case. it's something more of a person working for the sake of something she thought she ought to feel because the relationship is there and that's what she's familiar with.

ever read the alchemist? there is a line on that book that goes: When you want something, all the universe conspires to help you achieve it. well that is what's happening to my friend relationship wise except that it's the other way around. her family, her friends...the universe are all conspiring against what she wants (or what she thought she wants)and i think they have good reasons behind it.